Creating Connection in Photos
Have you ever seen those awkward wedding photos where you’re genuinely not sure if the couple even likes each other?
You know the ones—stiff poses, weird angles, and zero chemistry. Honestly, they look like they’re being forced to pose for their high school yearbook photo, not their wedding day. Ouch.
Now, sometimes, yes, couples are just having a rough day. But more often, it’s because neither they nor their photographer knows how to translate all that lovey-dovey, head-over-heels energy into their photos.
Spoiler alert: that’s where I come in.
When I start a session, I always kick things off with my favorite line: “My only rule for this session is you have to try and pretend to like each other.”
Cue the giggles (or maybe an eye roll if you’ve heard me say it before). It’s a lighthearted way to set the tone. I’m not here for stiff, soulless poses. I’m here to capture the real stuff—the laughs, the glances, the “I’m so glad it’s you” moments.
And guess what? You can totally create that magic with just one key ingredient: touch.
Why Touch Is the Secret Sauce
If you’re not sure if you’re close enough to your partner in a pose, the answer is: get closer.
And by closer, I mean awkwardly-close, breathing-the-same-air close.
Don’t worry—I’ll guide you through it, so it’s more romantic movie moment and less “stuck on a crowded subway” vibes.
When your photographer says, “Look at each other,” they don’t mean pull your faces apart and stare dramatically at your partner’s forehead. (Seriously, please don’t do this.)
They mean tilt your faces toward each other, so close that your noses are basically whispering secrets to each other. Sounds cheesy, but trust me, it works.
Even in more formal poses, adding a little touch can make all the difference. A hand on his chest, her arms around his neck, fingers intertwined—these little gestures turn an okay photo into something that feels alive.
The closer you are, the better it translates on camera.
Comfort Levels Are Key
Don't worry, I get it... not everyone’s a PDA superfan.
That’s toootally fine!
This isn’t about making you feel uncomfortable or forcing you into poses that don’t feel natural.
Whether you’re holding hands and leaning in or going full-on romance novel cover with a hand on her waist and lips grazing her neck, it’s all about finding what feels good for you.
A great photographer (hi, nice to meet you!) knows how to read the room.
They’ll notice if you’re feeling a little stiff or unsure and adjust things accordingly.
The goal isn’t just to create beautiful photos but to make sure you feel comfortable and confident while doing it.
Amp It Up (If You’re Feeling Bold)
Feeling spicy?
Let’s turn up the heat. Think: his hand gently tilting her chin up, her arm reaching behind his neck to pull him closer.
Or maybe he’s standing behind her, arms wrapped around her waist, lips brushing her ear as she smiles. These moments are raw, romantic, and a little steamy in the best way.
Remember, it’s not about going overboard and jumping down each others throats; it’s about showing your connection in a way that feels true to who you are.
Whether you’re sweet and subtle or bold and fiery, that authenticity is what will shine through in your photos.
Final Thoughts
At the end of the day, the secret to creating connection in your photos is simple: lean into each other—literally and emotionally.
Trust your photographer to guide you, stay close, and don’t be afraid to let your love take center stage.
When you look back on your photos, you’ll see more than just poses.
You’ll see the connection, the chemistry, and the story of why you chose each other in the first place.
And honestly? That’s what it’s all about.
May the odds be ever in your favour,
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