Should You Have a Private First Look?
If you’re asking me, “Should we have a private first look?” my answer is a big, fat, resounding YES.
I’m waving pom-poms for this one, folks.
Now, I totally get the magic of waiting until the walk down the aisle.
There’s something extraordinary about that moment - your favorite people standing in collective awe, tears of joy streaming, and all eyes on you as you float toward your love. It’s pure magic, no doubt about it.
But private first looks? Oh honey, they’ve got a vibe all their own. And honestly? It’s hard to put into words unless you’ve witnessed one. Let me paint the picture for you.
Why Private First Looks Hit Different
It's the big day. You’ve been running around like a headless chicken all morning—hair, makeup, questions flying at you left and right, and maybe even a touch of drama (because, weddings).
And then?
Time slows.
The chaos quiets.
It’s just the two of you, and nothing else matters.
No audience, no expectations, no pressure to hold it all together.
I’ve seen brides’ stress melt away in an instant, as soon as they catch sight of their partner.
Grooms go from stiff and stoic to puddles of emotion, falling into their bride’s arms with eyes full of relief and joy.
This moment isn’t about performance; it’s about presence.
You can laugh, cry, exchange whispers meant only for the two of you, and just be. It’s a little bubble of calm in the whirlwind of the day—a chance to reconnect and remind yourselves that no matter what, you’re in this together.
Why It’s Worth Considering
A private first look gives you the freedom to let go.
Need to ugly cry? Let it out babe.
Need to crack a dumb joke to calm your nerves? Go for it.
This moment is yours to soak in, without worrying about anyone watching.
And let’s not forget the practical perks: you get to actually spend more time together on your wedding day, and you might even be able to sneak in some of those couple portraits before the ceremony. (Hellooo, more time for partying later!)
Final Thoughts
Ultimately, there’s no “right” or “wrong” here—just what feels right for you as a couple.
Whether you want the shared magic of a walk down the aisle or the intimate calm of a private first look, the most important thing is that your choice reflects you.
But if you’re even slightly tempted by the idea of sneaking away for a private moment together before all eyes are on you, I say go for it. You won’t regret taking a few precious minutes to soak it all in and focus on the only thing that really matters—each other.
May the odds be ever in your favour,
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